What is the Purpose of Valentine’s Day?
February 14th is a day that individuals across the world celebrate and come together in the name of love. Most of the time, Valentine’s Day is meant for those celebrating the love that they have found in one another. Romantic dinners, roses, jewelry, chocolate covered strawberries, and stuffed animals are all that comes to my mind when I think about Valentine’s Day.
Though, some of us may be feeling undervalued this Valentine’s Day. Maybe you are currently single and have absolutely no one catching your eye. Or, you could be dating someone but just generally struggling with making and keeping your Galentine’s (friends) instead. In the end, this specific day is a reminder of what we don’t have sometimes: Love and friendship.
When we feel like we are missing these aspects of our lives, we tend to struggle with the feelings of self-worth, self-love, and value.
Truly, when we are experiencing Valentine’s Day alone, it is simply just a reminder of how much we need love and friendship within this world. It truly reminds us that we are not meant to be alone and how we need love, friendship, togetherness, kindness, and care to thrive.
Ultimately, we end up asking ourselves these major questions: why can’t I have those things in my life? What makes me different from everyone else that I am not allowed to experience a relationship or friendship in my life?
Fixing the Gaping Hole
When experiencing Valentine’s Day on your own or through adversities, it is hard to understand the what, why, when, and how. You might begin to ask yourself these questions too:
- What is wrong with me that I have not found someone to date?
- When will I ever get the chance to date someone or find a good friend I can trust in life?
- Why can’t I have a relationship or friendship like that?
- How am I supposed to deal with Valentine’s Day in being alone, single, or depressed? How can I fix this gaping hole that festers inside of my chest?
My friends and dear readers, what if I told you that you don’t have to keep asking yourselves these questions anymore?
Love does indeed exist within this world, and there is a love that no else can compete with, which is the love of God himself. John 3:16 (New Living Translation) shares that, “For this is how God loved the world: He gave[a] his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”
God himself came down to rescue and restore the brokenhearted, lonely, and depressed. He came to heal those who were sick and speak with those who wanted to learn and grow in their relationship with Him.
Now, I don’t know where you are in your relationship with God. Truthfully, I am not preaching that a relationship with God is the main answer to each one of our problems in life. However, I will share with you all that God has shown us a great deal of His love through sacrifice, mercy, and grace numerous times over history.
Moreover, I can share with you all that God has rescued me in times of trouble, depression, anxiety, and emptiness. God can help rescue and restore that gaping hole that we all experience within our chests.
Relationships and friendships do come and go in this world. My mom has always told me that I am lucky if I have one best friend in life and that is a fact. Though, I can promise you that the love of God is constant, true, and authentic compared to the love of this world.
The love of this world may ask you to give up your identity and fill your heart with money, sex, a career, or the American dream. On the other hand, the love of God takes you for that gaping hole within your chest, fills it up with the constant love of a friend and father, and shares with you a transcendent love and peace beyond explanation.
In the end, a relationship with a boyfriend or girlfriend isn’t needed on Valentine’s Day. What we desire is a relationship with someone who is constant, steady, and willing to love every part of you even for your brokenness or emptiness. It is about wanting to be valued, loved, and cared for by someone that respects you, sees your worth, and knows you by name. That, my friends, is the exact love of God in every single way.
Whether you are single, dating, engaged, or married this Valentine’s Day, God sees you. God sees you and deeply loves you for who you are.